
Networking often gets a bad rap. People picture it as awkward small talk, forced smiles, and trading business cards at dull events. But real networking isn’t about schmoozing—it’s about building authentic relationships that open doors, create opportunities, and expand your worldview.
Whether you’re an introvert or extrovert, just starting out or already established, improving your networking skills can be one of the most valuable investments in your personal and professional growth. Here’s how to get better at it—without feeling like a fraud.
1. Shift Your Mindset: Think Relationships, Not Transactions
If you see people as stepping stones to your next gig, they’ll feel it—and nothing shuts a connection down faster. Instead, approach networking as a chance to learn, share, and grow. Focus on being curious about others, not just promoting yourself. Ask real questions. Listen to the answers. Be human.
2. Start Where You Are
You don’t need a fancy conference or a VIP mixer to network. Your classmates, colleagues, local meetups, and even your social media contacts are part of your network. Reach out. Grab coffee. Send a thoughtful message. Don’t underestimate the power of low-stakes, everyday interactions.
3. Practice Your Story
You don’t need a pitch—but you do need clarity. When someone asks what you do or what you’re working on, can you explain it clearly, in a sentence or two? Practice saying who you are, what excites you, and what you’re looking for. Keep it simple, honest, and flexible.
4. Follow Up (and Actually Stay in Touch)
One conversation is great. A real relationship is better. Follow up with a thank-you message or share something relevant you discussed. Put a reminder to check in a month later. Relationship-building takes time and consistency, not just charisma.
5. Offer Help Before You Ask for It
Be the kind of person who adds value. Share a useful article. Connect someone with a resource. Celebrate other people’s wins. Giving first creates trust and often leads to organic opportunities down the road.
6. Be Where the Conversations Are
If you’re passionate about a field, show up. Attend events, join communities, comment on posts, or participate in online forums. Visibility builds familiarity. Familiarity builds trust. Trust builds networks.
7. Don’t Try to Impress. Try to Relate.
People remember how you make them feel—not your résumé. Be relatable. Share your journey, including the bumps. Vulnerability and honesty often create stronger bonds than a polished elevator pitch ever could.
Networking Is a Long Game
There’s no shortcut to meaningful connections—but with intention, empathy, and consistency, you’ll find that your network starts to work for you. The best time to start building it was yesterday. The second-best time is now.
Tip to try this week: Reach out to one person you admire with a short, genuine note—no ask, just appreciation or curiosity. You might be surprised by what happens.




